If you don’t have sex before marriage, then making your relationship legal will definitely improve your sex life, at least for a few years, and assuming you’re sexually compatible. Otherwise putting that wedding ring on is pretty much like strapping on a metal chastity belt. One recent British poll discovered that unwed couples had sex an average of four times a week; after three years of marriage, couple were lucky to have sex once a week. If that isn’t enough to make you seriously consider returning that engagement ring, here are some more fun facts from the independent survey:
-60% of married people believe marriage destroyed their sex lives.
-50% see their partner more as a friend than a lover.
-Nearly 60% said their sex life has suffered since marriage because they no longer make an effort.
-33% are no longer attracted to their partner like they were in the early phases of their relationship.
-43% said their partner has let themselves go.
-80% always have sex at the same time, in the same position, and in the same place.
-Nearly 80% prefer a good night’s sleep to making the effort to have unplanned sex at night.
-Two thirds of those who admitted to extramarital affairs claimed the sex was amazing.
-One fifth who haven’t cheated said they would if they had the opportunity and their relationship doesn’t improve.
-One fifth claimed they would “understand” if their partner confessed to cheating.
-25% admitted to having a one night stand to satisfy their need for good sex.
-14% have had a full blown affair.
-Two thirds blame their busy lives for their awful sex lives.
-80% are too tired for sex when the day is over.
-70% claimed they might have sex more if their partner made more of an effort.
Before you put a bullet in your six shooter and start spinning the cylinder, consider this: although this survey polled 3,000 British citizens, it was conducted by a dating site for extramarital affairs called lovinglinks.co.uk.. This is a bit like Scientologists publishing a survey on the stress and happiness levels of the general population.
Still, it’s no secret that most married couples struggle with unsatisfying sex lives. However, I would suggest that it’s not the fault of marriage so much as a natural consequence of a long term relationship. Committed gay couples who aren’t legally bound experience the same sexual slump. So what’s the problem? It may be hard to narrow down on one specific reason, but let’s just say it’s difficult to maintain excitement in your sex life when you know exactly what your partner will say to reject you when you move to unsnap her bra in the middle of the night.
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